I (heart) feminists

I felt like I needed to stand up and applaud at the end.

http://www.dailydot.com/opinion/what-men-dont-understand-about-women-lindy-west/

"You cannot “get” a girlfriend, because a girlfriend is not an iPad or a burrito or gonorrhea. Women are people. You aren't entitled to “have” people, just because you think it will cure your unhappiness. Your unhappiness is your problem and no one else’s. And thinking about a girlfriend as a thing that you “get” and not an equal partner whose humanity you respect and cherish will never result in a satisfying relationship anyway."


Also, the friend who posted this did so with this thoughtful commentary:

This is excellent. I would push back on only one thing: that she overestimates that men accurately understand what it means to "be a person" or what it means to be human. Part of the basic problem with sexism/patriarchy is that men (and sometimes women) so often assume that men experience and understand the basic standards of humanity and merely deny these to women by perceiving/using them as objects. It's more the case that men themselves are so often confused by and insecure about their own humanity (forcibly interpreted through the lens of having to come to grips with what it is supposed to mean to be a man) and so are floundering and in despair in profound ways about their own humanity.