Seriously. But somehow I found one that doesn't. I'm still a little in awe of how the therapist I have now fell into my lap so easily. The first recommendation I got and she is extraordinary. She is experienced and thoughtful and nonjudgmental and honest and she cuts through the mess so easily to the heart of the questions. And, she even cried with me one time. That is probably what I need most in a therapist. Someone who cares. If I can find competency and caring, those are my top two wish lists and she kicks the crap out of those two. Barbara Rye Ryan, if anyone in Prescott is looking for someone. But anyway, back to my reason for posting, I also think most of the marriage advice articles I come across are pretty sucky too, but when Penelope Trunk links to a therapist's blog I always click, and this guy didn't disappoint.
Reason number two was the one that Penelope Trunk quoted in her blog post:
The nine most overlooked threats to a marriage
"2. Marriage doesn't take away our loneliness: To be alive is to be lonely. It’s the human condition. Marriage doesn’t change the human condition. It can’t make us completely unlonely. And when it doesn’t, we blame our partner for doing something wrong, or we go searching for companionship elsewhere. Marriage is intended to be a place where two humans share the experience of loneliness and, in the sharing, create moments in which the loneliness dissipates. For a little while."
And this one:
http://drkellyflanagan.com/2013/05/01/the-most-important-thing-to-look-for-in-a-life-partner/
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