Self-Sufficiency is Overrated

This post and this comment make so much sense to me.

http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2015/01/03/self-sufficiency-is-overrated/#comments


Dee commented:

In a way, the distortion of feminism has led to this problem increasing. Feminism is about equality, not the idea that you don’t need a man. Somehow it’s become wrong to need your husband.
Here in Sweden it’s becoming more and more absurd.

 If the dishes need doing, it’s done together and after that you walk the dog. Together. Everything takes these couples twice as long because of a ridiculous and unrealistic attemp to make everything exactly 50/50 equal. What happened to “I’ll do the dishes and you walk the dog and then we’ll have time and energy for sex” ? (Hint- that’s better for the marriage in the long run).

 Who cares about who does what? As long as you work as a team to benefit the team, you’re on a winning streak.

 My husband drives our car, not because I can't, but because he likes it better than me. I like to wander off in my thoughts and driving prohibits that.

 I cook, he cleans. Why? Because I’m a great cook and he has OCD, so he cleans 5 times before I’d even think about cleaning. In turn, he’s surprised every time he senses hunger as if it isn’t something you can plan for. (He never gets that you cook before you get hungry).

I spent my early 20’s trying to overcompensate for my gender and prove that “I can too” by throwing myself at any task or domain that was considered “for men”. Until I realized that a lot of the things I was doing, and of course COULD do- I had no interest in doing.

Feminism- free to choose to be the one that handles the barbecue and free to choose to not ruin my manicure digging that hole in the garden.

Sorry for the rant.