Someone who is unafraid to be herself

Ok so this would take an essay I know, but this kind of idea Emma Stone is expressing here is what I want to teach my girls about beauty. I don't always like the "redefine beauty" campaign ads because I feel like they keep the focus on appearance and I'd rather tell my girls something like,

"Yes, it's true - our culture defines beauty as A, B, and C, and cross-culturally around the world throughout all of time everyone has defined "symmetry" as beautiful. Which means how outwardly beautiful you are deemed is largely luck, and trying to change that tends to to be a soul-sucking goal on which to spend your limited money, energy and time on. The truth is also that most of us do it to some extent but "living an examined life" about how much you want to give toward caring about your outward appearance is very important, because everytime you give toward trying to be more beautiful you will have less to give toward other areas of life.

What I find helpful to remember is that someone else is always going to be more beautiful than you. The less that bothers you, the more space you'll have to become who you actually are - a woman full of confidence, humor and grace. And most people agree that those qualities make for a profoundly better life than traditional beauty."

The consensus also seems to be that the way in which I will have the most influence in helping them learn this is to believe it myself. I really like that.